Category Archives: Law of Attraction

I want something and have not got it!

Modern self-help concept encourages us to believe that we can manifest whatever we want. What is required is to believe in it, affirm it(affirmations) and visualize it as vividly as possible(Visualizations). “You can Manifest whatever you want” is against our basic belief(basically, we will be committing shirk by thinking we can control everything in our life). That only Allah is capable of creating anything that he wills(Kun Faya Kun – Be and It is). Yes, our responsibility is to want good things for ourselves and our loved ones, put in all the effort to bring it into existence along with making a lot of dua to Allah (SWT). If Allah wills, he will bring the thing we desire into being.

Also, this system places tremendous pressure on us to manifest something. If we have followed all the steps – affirmations, visualizations etc and yet don’t see any results, we conclude that there is something wrong with our thinking, something we are missing. This increases stress levels and if goes on for a while for various aspects of our life, it even affects our health, our self-esteem, self-confidence and relationships.

If after doing all this, the exact thing we wanted is not realized, we should know two things:

1. May be the exact thing that we wanted was not the best thing for us. May be Allah replaced it with something higher, something better which we do not understand yet. But will see it in the long term.

2. Only what Allah wills and is in accordance with our Qadr will be given to us.

Qadr is Allah’s decree or pre-destiny. This is one of the six articles of Imaan/Faith that a Muslim is required to believe in Qadr, the Good and the Bad of it.

Allah (SWT) in his infinite wisdom has written down in Al-Lauh Al-Mahfuz(the Book of Decrees), the destiny of each creature. No matter what a person does, the divine decree will take over and only that will come to pass in his/her life.

However, it does not mean that our efforts are futile. As Allah (SWT) says in the Holy Quran many times, “Are the doers of good equal to those who do evil? Nay, the reward for good is only good”(paraphrased), Allah makes sure every one gets what they worked for(be it good or bad).

Hence, there is no reason to despair. Also, those who despair of Allah’s mercy are termed as disbelievers. So, we need to be aware that we don’t fall into despair in any situation. May Allah(SWT) make us of those who believe in Allah and his Qadr and who are patient in seeking His mercy and are ever grateful to what Allah gives us.

Also, we need to remember that Allah gives as we believe. If we believe in his Mercy, he is merciful to us.

Coming back to Allah – Part II

Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah . Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.”  13:28

After dabbling in a multitude of modern stuff like self help books and coaching series, I found there is something missing. Something which makes me feel shallow, even after all the confidence boosting, positive thinking, mind-tuning, vision creating exercises. Why can’t I feel complete. Why can’t I feel enough. After all, am I not everything. If I set my mind to it(visualize, affirm etc), I can get it, right. Then what is missing.

Does my spouse have anything to say. My friends, relatives? Do they have a right to say? If someone does not understand and support my goals/aspirations, I don’t care right. After all, what I say, think, believe and behave matters doesn’t it. Why do I feel bad then.

Oh yeah, here is the key.

Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah . Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.” 13:28

(248 hadith found in ‘Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)‘ of Sahih Bukhari)

Narrated Abu Aiyub Al-Ansari: A man said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Inform me of a deed which will make me enter Paradise.” The people said, “What is the matter with him? What is the matter with him?” Allah’s Apostle said, “He has something to ask (what he needs greatly).” The Prophet said (to him), (In order to enter Paradise) you should worship Allah and join none in worship with Him: You should offer prayers perfectly, give obligatory charity (Zakat), and keep good relations with your Kith and kin.” He then said, “Leave it!” (The sub-narrator said, “It seems that the Prophet was riding his she camel.” 

Narrated Jubair bin Mut’im: That he heard the Prophet saying, “The person who severs the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise.” 

When I reflect on these, yes, remembrance of Allah(SWT) fills me with the sense of contentment and happiness that no other self-help book can do. Remembrance of Allah(SWT) fills the void. The affection and togetherness of my people gives the gold coating on it. Allah(SWT) in his infinite wisdom gave this knowledge to us plain and straight forward. But humankind seems to have sworn to make things complex for itself, myself included.

It only gets better:

Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, “Who ever is pleased that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be pro longed, then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin.” 

Narrated Anas bin Malik: Allah ‘s Apostle said, “Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin.” 

Law of Attraction or Iman

I thought I would come to this topic much later. But I could not resist. After all, most of the Life Coaching revolves around Law of Attraction. I am not convinced at the moment that Law of Attraction is Islamic. If I pick and choose where I apply law of attraction, I might be good. But, if I start applying LOA in every aspect of my life. I am afraid I will be committing Shirk.

As I put out in my subject, Iman is more important to me than believing in Law of Attraction. I think it is better to stay away from anything that has the slightest chance of leading me to sin. Love of Allah is more important than love of small things that we want to attract in life. Moreover, hasn’t he The Almighty promised us good in this world and in the hereafter if we are follow the path he taught us through our beloved prophet(SAWS).

There are good things about Law of Attraction, like Being grateful. Again we just feel grateful here, we are not particularly being grateful to Allah The Almighty – which in essence is wrong again. Also, I might unknowingly follow something which might be against islam.