Category Archives: Patience

I want something and have not got it!

Modern self-help concept encourages us to believe that we can manifest whatever we want. What is required is to believe in it, affirm it(affirmations) and visualize it as vividly as possible(Visualizations). “You can Manifest whatever you want” is against our basic belief(basically, we will be committing shirk by thinking we can control everything in our life). That only Allah is capable of creating anything that he wills(Kun Faya Kun – Be and It is). Yes, our responsibility is to want good things for ourselves and our loved ones, put in all the effort to bring it into existence along with making a lot of dua to Allah (SWT). If Allah wills, he will bring the thing we desire into being.

Also, this system places tremendous pressure on us to manifest something. If we have followed all the steps – affirmations, visualizations etc and yet don’t see any results, we conclude that there is something wrong with our thinking, something we are missing. This increases stress levels and if goes on for a while for various aspects of our life, it even affects our health, our self-esteem, self-confidence and relationships.

If after doing all this, the exact thing we wanted is not realized, we should know two things:

1. May be the exact thing that we wanted was not the best thing for us. May be Allah replaced it with something higher, something better which we do not understand yet. But will see it in the long term.

2. Only what Allah wills and is in accordance with our Qadr will be given to us.

Qadr is Allah’s decree or pre-destiny. This is one of the six articles of Imaan/Faith that a Muslim is required to believe in Qadr, the Good and the Bad of it.

Allah (SWT) in his infinite wisdom has written down in Al-Lauh Al-Mahfuz(the Book of Decrees), the destiny of each creature. No matter what a person does, the divine decree will take over and only that will come to pass in his/her life.

However, it does not mean that our efforts are futile. As Allah (SWT) says in the Holy Quran many times, “Are the doers of good equal to those who do evil? Nay, the reward for good is only good”(paraphrased), Allah makes sure every one gets what they worked for(be it good or bad).

Hence, there is no reason to despair. Also, those who despair of Allah’s mercy are termed as disbelievers. So, we need to be aware that we don’t fall into despair in any situation. May Allah(SWT) make us of those who believe in Allah and his Qadr and who are patient in seeking His mercy and are ever grateful to what Allah gives us.

Also, we need to remember that Allah gives as we believe. If we believe in his Mercy, he is merciful to us.


In times of Difficulty…

My life has changed much since I started to realize my various challenges. The toughest challenge has been to be in control and composed in adverse situations. The only way I knew was try cry away.  In fact, my conscious goal for many years has been “To Stop crying”. On the way I realized many things.

One, it is a sign of weakness, where we throw up our hands and say I can do nothing – so start crying.

Two, my belief in Allah (SWT) and Qadr(divine decree) was not so strong.

Three, there was too much anxiety building up at every situation – thanks to self help books which say that you can manifest anything you want, if you want it enough, visualize it enough etc. What these self help books miss out is the crucial part – in addition to giving it our best, we should also make dua abundantly and to know that “what Allah wills only will ever happen”.

Alhamdulillah, when I face a challenging situation now, I handle it quite differently. I am also more composed and peaceful. If we observe the above three things I mentioned, we can see that all three are interconnected.

Once we have strong belief in Allah (SWT) and his plan for us(Qadr), we don’t throw up our hands anymore and we don’t feel the anxiety anymore. We know that if we do the following, something good will be granted by Allah (SWT) either in this world(duniya) or in the akhirah(hereafter)

1. We put in our best effort to correct the situation or to find a solution.

2. We make plenty of dua(supplication) to Allah (SWT)

3. Try to pray Qiyam-al-Layl most of the days and make dua to HIM in the blessed hours of the night(last one-thirds of the night)

4. Develop a habit of Thanking Allah (SWT) even when a calamity has befallen.

5. Continuously seek Allah’s help and seek guidance.

6. Improve our relationship with Allah – By performing all obligatory acts and adding more nawafil acts

7. Continue worshiping Allah (SWT) in the best possible way for us even after the calamity or the difficult situation has passed.

While doing all this, it is important to keep in mind the following:

1. We make the best of our efforts and make lots of Dua – still nothing good seems to be happening. Remember that Allah (SWT) knows best what is good for us, and we may not see the goodness in a situation now and may see it in the long term.

2. Allah (SWT) may grant us good in this world(Duniya) or in the Hereafter(Akhirah). So, we may not realize it just yet.

3. Allah (SWT) gives us a situation so we can turn to Him and worship Him a lot. So, Alhamdulillah.

When I do all these and know that I am on the right path, I am more peaceful, composed and confident than ever before. I thank Allah(SWT) for granting me the understanding Alhamdulillah. I pray that I don’t waiver from this understanding and that we all realize peace and calm in this life. Ameen.

Coming back to Allah – part I

Assalam alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

These are the days when I am wondering about “did it take one or two calamities to bring me back to Allah’s way?”. Though I am a born muslim and kind of prayed sincerely some days, missed out on prayer some days. Tried not to miss any Jumah Salah. I never really saw how much I was engrossed in worldly affairs until recently. And looking back, Alhamdulillah, as Allah promised, he gave a blow or two to my consciousness, before I came to realize the truth.

Ye shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in your personal selves. (3:186)

Be sure We shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil); but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. (2:155)

I am grateful to Almighty Allah(SWT) for lifting up the screen from my heart and showing me the way. I pray to Allah to keep me on his path my entire life and let me not go astray ever again. Ameen.

“O Allah! Let our hearts never go astray after You have guided us to the right path; bestow upon us your mercy. You are The Most Generous.”

The incidents which were happening one after the another, I perceived them as calamities in my life. All of a sudden, I realized these are tests Allah is giving me, and my only recourse is to seek Allah and get closer to Allah.

I yearn to change my lifestyle to include more ibadah, more dhikr, more sunnah Alhamdulillah. I am working towards it and Insha’Allah Allah(SWT) will guide me.

Give me patience

In the process to discovering a few intrinsic details about Islam and the power of Dua in Islam, I understood patience is utmost important in the process. It is required that we keep patience, keep making Dua till we get what we want and believe that Allah has the Grandest and Best of the plans for each one of us.

I was looking at this one project opportunity in KSA(Kingdom of Saudi Arabia). I would so love to go there and see the work culture. How the place where our beloved Prophet(SAW) was born and lived is? What is the culture? What can I learn? And I am planning to learn Arabic as a language Insha’Allah.

Let me tell you, the concept of having separate lifts(elevators) for men and women… awesome. I totally want to go and experience it personally. It must be bliss, going from a place where men and women are sandwiched together in the same lift.

I am hoping and I am praying constantly for Allah(SWT) to help me in succeeding in this endeavor. I also find keeping patience has been difficult for me my entire life. I can see that I am improving Alhamdulillah. I will keep my patience and will continue to supplicate to Allah(SWT) to grace me with an opportunity to visit this beautiful place and leave me with beautiful pages in the book of my life.